For those familiar with the old standard, “Will the Circle Be Unbroken,” my apologies, but I’m not really committing blasphemy … just taking a slightly different direction … with a recognition that there are a few that may need to be … broken.
I would imagine just about everyone has heard the phrase, “you reap what you sow.” And as well, “what goes around, comes around.” These phrases hint at the cycling aspects of behavior (to put it loosely).
It’s a common situation … one person does something to hurt another and quite often draws the ire of the “victim.” They may or may not seek some sort of revenge, but even if this isn’t the case, it is quite possible they will carry some degree of animosity toward the perpetrator. They may carry their emotions on their sleeves (so-to-speak) so everyone knows their “pissed,” or they could react in kind. Alternatively, they could carry a quiet resentment that digs dandelion deep … seemingly releasing the attack … but they know … and won’t forget. But one things for certain, “he’ll get his.”
And in a sense, I agree. We all get “ours” (and that’s a whole different story!) … but I’ve been struck by how this whole scenario can become a circle that goes on and on … until someone chooses to forgive.
Years ago, when I was focusing a fair amount of time studying “The Course in Miracles” (ACIM), I was confronted with this notion of “forgiveness” in a profound way. In fact, ACIM points to forgiveness as a vital route to healing … and ultimately to living as intended.
It wasn’t uncommon for me to contemplate topics like this for days on end. I still have it come to mind, even years later, but in those earlier days, I had a mental image arise that became an anchor of understanding.
I saw a two dimensional circle of pain going round and round … one hurt playing into another, followed by another “getting even,” a cross word, a cold shoulder, avoidance … until one of the “players” in the game recognizes the futility, digs deep within … is able to touch forgiveness … and live it.
In an instant, that two dimensional circle was severed … and one end rose up, spiraling, as if to heaven. The circle was broken, at least for that individual. Now, instead of spending energy on the hamster wheel, they were using it for higher purposes.
Is this real or imagined? Answer as you will, but the journey has shown me that holding grudges and resentment are fruitless, sapping energy that can be used in much better ways.
Isn’t it easier said than done? Indeed, but most likely because we don’t have a lot of experience with it … or for that matter, the whole idea of looking “below the surface.” I continue to work with this. Oh, I know what I should do and I know what to say, but the key is when that “knowing” moves to the heart … and it simply becomes a natural tendency.
These few words offered cannot possibly encompass all that can be said on this subject, but if you are drawn to more, follow the link above … or in the least, seek understanding in your own way. Either way, it’s worth it.
Here’s hoping each circle of this sort may be broken!